We have all seen it – those people who do nothing but complain and file complaints, or the people who to your face say you are amazing, but the second you turn your back, they are off running to their friends who like to talk about what a terrible person you are. You know those types right? The ones who make sure what is said gets back to you? It’s like this:
Contrary to Mean Girls however, the toxic people havec no specific gender or sex or persuasion. They can be anyone. They generally are carrying torches for some cause, or are just disgruntled over something they feel is out of their control. Their burn book is social media and they make it a point to be pretty much just terrible people to those who oppose them or who they view as opposition.
So why does this happen? What changes someone from being nice to toxic? Sometimes it’s something personal. Someone did something to you or people who are your friends and now you are the one who volunteers as tribute. A word of advise for our future Katniss’s – be careful of the bridges you burn. They rarely are able to be repaired in such a way that they are transversable without a lot of assistance.
It could be that you observe what to you is some sort of failing or unfairness, and instead of asking questions, you simply decide to rail against the system like a bird hitting a window until it either learns better or dies a tragic death. These are our Elsa’s of the world – people who need to learn to let it go or move on.
Seriously people, just let it go. The drama isn’t worth it. The people you will alienate are not worth hurting. You want to enact change? Be the change you want to see, or sit back and enjoy the ride.
This is a topic you will likely see me revisit a few times as its one that is close to my heart. I believe that toxic people are like bad weeds in a garden. Root them out, before they rot those around them, or kill it wth fire.
~Nycci Daniels9/8/2018
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